Your #1 Critic

Your #1 Critic

As a bit of a follow up to the post 1 month ago (almost to the day) titled “Your #1 Asset,” I wanted to touch on your #1 critic.

Of course the answer to this one is the same as your #1 asset: You. Weird if you think about it. Why is it that we are our own worst critic? Why is it that we constantly talk negative to ourselves? “You can’t do that, it’s too tough.” “You? Are you kidding? HAHAHA. You think you can just go and join a sports team? HAHA. Everyone will be better than you. You will just embarrass yourself. Don’t even try out.”
Odd I find it that we hold our selves down instead of lifting our selves up. Are we taught to do this somewhere? I don’t recall my parents teaching me to talk negative to my self. I also don’t recall my parents saying those negative things to me. Saying I can’t do it. 
I have read/heard a few sayings I want to add in here to help us get out of this constant bullying of our selves. 
1. Fear stands for False Evidence Appearing Real.
2. Fear knocked on the door, faith answered and no one was there. 
3. Action cures fear.
I feel it has everything to do with fear. We attempt to protect ourselves from harm because we fear getting hurt, when in reality we are harming ourselves from potential growth. We don’t ask that girl/guy out because we fear rejection. What goes through your head? “There is no way a girl/guy like them would like a person like me. I’m not good enough. They will just laugh at me in front of the whole class.” Little did we know that she/he was waiting on us to just ask. 
I tried an exercise I read in a book. It goes something like this (paraphrasing): Every time you get a thought of “I can’t do that…That is too hard…I wouldn’t be any good at that” ask your self what proof do you have that it would be to hard. Have you ever tried it before? Probably not. You are just fearing the False Evidence Appearing Real. 
I have come to realize that it rarely is ever as bad as you imagine it. You get all these scenarios of what is going to happen. You picture them laughing at you and think your so crazy for even thinking you were good enough to apply for this job. Then when you get some courage and do it they actually commend you for applying for the job that was above your abilities and give you a shot at it anyways. 
Next time you think a negative thought about your self, think 2 positive ones and just go do whatever it is your are wanting to do. 

Your #1 asset

Your #1 asset

Sometimes I get to Sunday and think “shoot, I have a post to write”. Ya that happens pretty much every Sunday. Blogging isn’t as easy as I thought it was going to be. Some weeks I just don’t think about much. I just go through the motions. It sounds very sad but I would bet everyone has those weeks, frequently. 

Anyways, onto the topic of the post. Your #1 asset. 
I heard this awhile back. I am quite sure it was at a leadership conference I went to…or I read it in a book, either way, the person was talking about assets and investing. When he asked the crowd what their number one asset was he heard shouts of “House, stocks, my business”. None where correct. Our #1 asset is not the house that is rising in price, it’s not the stocks or shares on the rise, it’s not your own business. It’s you.
You are your #1 asset. I hope you aren’t disappointed but think about it. What should you invest most of your time, energy and money into. Would you invest it in your #2 asset? Your #3? No, your #1. The problem is people forget or don’t see them selves as their #1 asset. What is going to make you the most money? You. What can get you the best ROI? You. If you don’t invest in yourself, you will not become successful. 
How do you invest in your self? Do I mean to go on a shopping spree because it makes you feel on top of your world? No. 
Heres a question. How many of you read? What do you read? Fiction? Romance? Fantasy? How about self help books? “How to make friends and influence people”, “The seven habits of highly effective people”, “The compound effect”, The scriptures. Why does the term “self help” sound wrong? Don’t we all cringe a bit when we here that. “Hey, you should read this self help book”. *eye roll*
But why not invest in our selves. Why not read about how to influence people and get what you want. Why not read about how to be better at organizing our time? 
Invest time in your self. You are your #1 asset. Take time every day to improve something about you. 15 minutes every day learning a new language, scripture study, or reading a self help book on better parenting. How can you make your self better? It’s pretty funny, we would rather sit and watch a show about other people who made it work than actually going out and doing it ourselves.

Importance of a Mentor

Importance of a Mentor

We had our bishop come visit us in our home tonight. He wanted to get to know us and our situation better. During our conversation he gave us some advice on life. I’m not going to get into what advice he gave, but I think we should consider the importance of having a mentor for our lives.

Gabby and I started our own business. A perk of starting this business is it comes with mentors. Free ones at that! Can’t get better than free. These mentors are helping us know where to step and what to do to get success out of our business. These mentors are mainly just for business topics, but not only can you have mentors for your business and financial life, you can also have them for your daily life.

These mentors can see your situation from a different perspective. It was nice to sit with our bishop and hear how he sees us from the outside. From someone that doesn’t live this life. I think it’s human nature to feel comfortable in our little circles and thus become robots. In other words, we can get set in our ways. Having a mentor that sees things from the outside can help us know when we are in a rut and remind us of our options.

I think the bishop tonight dispelled some things that I have convinced my self are true. I just feel it’s always good to have a second opinion from someone not really benefiting from our lives. (you know what I mean). He has no real vested interest in whether we take his advice or not, he’s just there to give it. Either choice affects him very little.

Anyways, I hope this isn’t to scattered. I will say one thing that the bishop mentioned. Our goal should be happiness. Seek happiness. I realized that we often get so bogged down with everything going on in life and all the decisions we have to make that we forget what our true desire is; to be happy. What brings me happiness? What brings you happiness?

I don’t really care if your mentor is a business professional, spiritual leader, or just a friend. Have someone you can talk to who can give you advice from how they see things from the outside. They aren’t in your head, and thats a good thing.

Why Leadership?

Why Leadership?

I have always liked the topic of leadership and I have always wanted to do public speaking. I have always enjoyed speaking in church and doing class presentations. I figured this would be a great way to get my passion out there and help inspire people to become leaders themselves. I included public speaking into this topic because this is what I want to speak on stage about. Leadership. Encouraging others to become better and become Leaders themselves.

A short story.

I was at work when I met a nice young couple looking for a new computer for their home business. I, being a business owner myself, wanted to talk more about their businesses than computers. I find out they own a photography business. She takes photos of people, weddings and the like, he takes photos of trucks and does calendars. That’s not what caught my attention. He mentioned that he also owns a business doing public speaking. That has been a passion of mine for a long time. I have been trying to find ways to do it more often and other than just at church. That’s actually why I started my own business. I mentioned that this is a passion of mine and I would love to sit down for coffee sometime and talk about it. I asked if he had a card and he gave me his info. I told him I would call him within the week. I had 2 objectives:

1: introduce him to my business and,
2: talk about his public speaking venture.

We sit down for coffee at a local Tim Hortons and we start talking about what he does. Turns out he travels the world and speaks on stage motivating people to accomplish what they put their minds to. I loved it all. It is exactly what I want to do. I shared my business idea with him and it turns out he and his wife are doing a similar thing already. Before our coffee drinking session was over he gave me some advice:

1: have a blog.
2: what can you give for free?
3: create your own site with your own content
4: don’t forget to give thanks to God.

So here I am at advice step #1, creating my own blog. He said this is a great way to get my ideas out there and inspire people to change the way they think without getting up on a stage. I wanted to start a blog for a whole now so I figured why not now? 

So if you are aspiring to become a great leader in your family, work, school, or church life this is a great blog to follow!